In the 365 Days of Granny Squares project, I get permission from designers to participate in this big project in hopes that their blogs get more traffic and there is a video tutorial to their written pattern. A few of the designs do not have written patterns available to viewers. Yesterday, I posted a granny square in our 365 Days of Granny Squares collection based off of a photo I saw. With it being Eid, it was a beautiful addition to the blog. I used a photo, with NO written pattern to design the granny square by sight as no one was linked to a pattern from a media link I found on Pinterest. It just led to a picture someone had taken of a square. Had I known anything about the designer, I would have contacted them as I have all the other designers that are participating in this project.
Today, I was notified by another designer that the design of said square belongs to her, and she asked me if I could remove the pattern from my blog which I did respectfully. Furthermore, I removed the video tutorial and will be filming a replacement granny square for Day 188, so please bear with me and accept my apologies for this kink in this project.
I understand that it takes A LOT to design a project, and it was a mistake on my part to not research further to find an actual designer. I know how it feels to work hard on things and not be given the credit, and for that I am sorry.
However, that being said, although it was removed as she asked, and I felt things were resolved professionally, I have been pummeled with hate-filled comments. Serious trolling hate. I have been on the receiving end of bullies before, but this is the first time in the crochet community that this happened to me. There has never been anything, but kindness up until now. Comments calling me a hack, saying I lack talent, saying I am a “bit** of epic proportion,” the list goes on. Those I can handle, and maybe some people feel justified behind a computer to sling dirt at me. That’s their prerogative, but that’s not how I operate. I know that happens, so I just deleted them without engaging in anything that was said.
I might not have the talent of some, but maybe that will grow in time. What was really painful is they attacked me as a person. People attacked my race and religious affiliation (as the square was made for Eid), and for so many other things that have nothing to do with crochet. Criticize my crochet, and I can fix it. Criticize my work, and I can get better at it. But to outright attack me as a person, that is going too far, especially if it was being handled between me and the other designer. If I step on your toes, let’s have a dialogue and give me the chance to fix it, especially when nothing was done out of malice. I make mistakes. I am human. I am just one person in the sea of thousands of crocheters, and my naivete in this arena may have put me in a hostile situation brought on by my own actions. No matter what the circumstance, it is no excuse to combat that with HATE-FILLED commentary and bullying messages. What is the purpose of that? What does somebody gain by attacking another individual like this?
I thought handling things amicably between two individuals was how this should be done, even if I can respect her position on the matter, in no way did I expect this kind of backlash after the issue was resolved in a mature manner. She handled everything very kindly and professionally on her side. I apologize for any wrongdoing on my side that could have or would have offended her design and integrity.
In the future, I will use this as a learning tool and a way to grow. I hope to cross my T’s and dot my I’s more thoroughly from now on to bring you creative content. But more than that, I hope to just put good out into the world, and hopefully some will come back to me. Honestly, there’s enough hate in this world and enough pain than to continue to inflict it upon anyone. I apologize to anyone who I have ever offended in anyway in the crochet community.
Please refrain from hateful comments on this blog and anywhere in the cyber-world. Thank you.