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I’m Sorry…

Preface

In the 365 Days of Granny Squares project, I get permission from designers to participate in this big project in hopes that their blogs get more traffic and there is a video tutorial to their written pattern. A few of the designs do not have written patterns available to viewers. Yesterday, I posted a granny square in our 365 Days of Granny Squares collection based off of a photo I saw. With it being Eid, it was a beautiful addition to the blog. I used a photo, with NO written pattern to design the granny square by sight as no one was linked to a pattern from a media link I found on Pinterest. It just led to a picture someone had taken of a square. Had I known anything about the designer, I would have contacted them as I have all the other designers that are participating in this project.

The Aftermath

Today, I was notified by another designer that the design of said square belongs to her, and she asked me if I could remove the pattern from my blog which I did respectfully. Furthermore, I removed the video tutorial and will be filming a replacement granny square for Day 188, so please bear with me and accept my apologies for this kink in this project.

I understand that it takes A LOT to design a project, and it was a mistake on my part to not research further to find an actual designer. I know how it feels to work hard on things and not be given the credit, and for that I am sorry.

However, that being said, although it was removed as she asked, and I felt things were resolved professionally, I have been pummeled with hate-filled comments. Serious trolling hate. I have been on the receiving end of bullies before, but this is the first time in the crochet community that this happened to me. There has never been anything, but kindness up until now. Comments calling me a hack, saying I lack talent, saying I am a “bit** of epic proportion,” the list goes on. Those I can handle, and maybe some people feel justified behind a computer to sling dirt at me. That’s their prerogative, but that’s not how I operate. I know that happens, so I just deleted them without engaging in anything that was said.

I might not have the talent of some, but maybe that will grow in time. What was really painful is they attacked me as a person. People attacked my race and religious affiliation (as the square was made for Eid), and for so many other things that have nothing to do with crochet. Criticize my crochet, and I can fix it. Criticize my work, and I can get better at it. But to outright attack me as a person, that is going too far, especially if it was being handled between me and the other designer. If I step on your toes, let’s have a dialogue and give me the chance to fix it, especially when nothing was done out of malice. I make mistakes. I am human. I am just one person in the sea of thousands of crocheters, and my naivete in this arena may have put me in a hostile situation brought on by my own actions. No matter what the circumstance, it is no excuse to combat that with HATE-FILLED commentary and bullying messages. What is the purpose of that? What does somebody gain by attacking another individual like this?

I thought handling things amicably between two individuals was how this should be done, even if I can respect her position on the matter, in no way did I expect this kind of backlash after the issue was resolved in a mature manner. She handled everything very kindly and professionally on her side. I apologize for any wrongdoing on my side that could have or would have offended her design and integrity.

In the future, I will use this as a learning tool and a way to grow. I hope to cross my T’s and dot my I’s more thoroughly from now on to bring you creative content. But more than that, I hope to just put good out into the world, and hopefully some will come back to me. Honestly, there’s enough hate in this world and enough pain than to continue to inflict it upon anyone. I apologize to anyone who I have ever offended in anyway in the crochet community.

~Nadia Fuad

Please refrain from hateful comments on this blog and anywhere in the cyber-world. Thank you.

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135 responses

  1. I hope you and your family pass a Happy Eid. Don’t worry about those people who spew hate.. You cannot change them no matter what you do! You do have talent and you have integrity. Take care!!!

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  2. Nadia, I can’t begin to tell you how saddened I was to read about these events. People can be so evil and grimy and disrespectful. Please don’t let the comments of these bitter, ugly, ignorant individuals darken your joyous, bright spirit. You are admirable, brave, strong, and EXTREMELY talented. There are so many of us out here who support and respect you. I hope you know that. 💕

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  3. Thank you for standing up for yourself and denouncing the madness. I look forward to receiving notifications about your latest crochet projects. Many of my own designs have have inspired by your color combinations and sense of style. Just do you.

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  4. Nadia, I am so sorry this has happened to you. After reading your note all I can do is shake my head and wonder what this world is coming too. I hope this won’t discourage you to do what you are doing. You are a very talented young lady and I look up to you. Keep up the great things you are doing and stay strong. You have been with me the last 190 days and I am looking forward to the next 175 days. Thank you so much for this great project and also many thanks to your dad.

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  5. Nadia I am a fan and love your style. I am currently tackling a mermaid blanket thanks to your wonderful YouTube video , by the way you are a wonderful teacher. Please don’t allow people who have only hate to share bring you down. We all have struggles to overcome and if we can give a bit of love, help, happiness or creativity to help another what a better place this world can become. Thank you for sharing and I hope you receive more positive comments , chin up and smile on. Much love:*

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  6. Sorry to hear you had to endure something like that ,chin up though I love what you do and your work is fantastic ,look forward to more greatness from you

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  7. I’m really sorry that happened to you. I have seen people in different crochet groups get totally nuts about designs. It isn’t even usually their design that’s in question. They’re small people who need hate and drama in their lives to make themselves feel bigger. I’m so glad you haven’t let them make their problems your problem. You just continue on with your work, and don’t let those unfortunate creatures get under your skin. I love your videos and projects! Thanks for all you do.

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  8. Mistakes happen. We learn from them. I send only good thoughts your way. Wishing you health and happiness always.

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  9. Oh, Nadia! I’m saddened to hear of the terrible trolling you’ve been victimised with… I often find that uncalled for treatment such as you’ve endured comes from feelings of inadequacy on behalf of the bully. As was said above, just do you! Sadly, in all walks of life, there are at times folk who try to bring us down, make us their victims – don’t give them the victory of that, Nadia. I’ve only ever seen beauty emanate from within you – keep on shining, and don’t be too hard on yourself – ‘To err is human…’ xxxx

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  10. Don’t let this get you down, you are a beautiful person inside and out. I find you a remarkable person in your field, just the fact that you can look at a thing and create it is amazing. Please continue doing your great work. I have been creating a blanket from a selection of you squares, and other things that you have posted. Keep your head up, there are a lot of people out here that love you and your work. oooxxx

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  11. All I can say is consider the source!!! These must be very small minded people to take a personal attack on you like that. That should never have happened. Anyone can make a mistake…..don’t take it out of context. Delete those people from your blog and YouTube accounts. They do not deserve the privilege of seeing your work! You are young, and that makes it hurt even more! Those are ignorant cowards!

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  12. I think you are very talented and think you do wonderful very easy to follow tutorials which I just completed one , the shark blanket and will be doing more of your tutorials. Please do not let a few hateful nasty people get you down.
    Thanks for doing and sharing your awesome patterns with us.

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  13. its hard to imagine haters existing even in a community which seems to be a peaceful and creative on the outside to the layman. people are weird.
    You have the skill and the will to be very good at this. keep the patterns coming 🙂

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  14. I am dismayed that people in the crochet community can be so cruel. I am truly sorry this happened to you Nadia. I only know you through your wonderful tutorials and blog and have come to consider you a friend. I realize that you and other designers work hard but it seems some are just a little too full of themselves. I see many designs that are spin off of other designs and is that so terrible? I hope an honest mistake does not hinder your creativity and future work. I find it extremely sad that people attack others for their beliefs. I have known extremists in my religion but that doesn’t make me on. I live my life with this in mind….if there is a higher power that we will answer to someday…I hope that by me trying to make the world a better place will hold weight against those who sit in a church, or other religious places but care nothing for their neighbors or fellow Americans. A smile is easier to give a passers-by than people realize. Or helping some reach something in a grocer store, thanking someone who made the nice gesture of holding the door open etc. Kindest does matter. Especially in a world that has too many haters. I take it personal that someone verbally attacked you because you are my neighbor, you are my friend. Don’t you people have better things to do than write nasty things to a person that has done nothing but share her talents for FREE. Shame on you. And hugs to you Nadia.

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  15. It is disappointing to hear the response to your honest mistake.
    Certainly a reflection on others more than on you, and a reminder to us all to look after each other, build each other up, not tear each other apart.
    It is wonderful that you spend such time and effort thinking up your tutorials, researching pieces and taking the time to upload them for the many who follow you.
    The effort should not go un-noticed or treated with such disrespect.
    Thank you for sharing your effort and talents with us, thank you for taking steps to make amends with the original designer, and for also telling us all about the difficulty you have had in this regard.
    Another lesson we can all learn in how to treat each other fairly and with dignity.
    Knotty Polly.

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